Today I went thrift shopping with a friend. Y’all, we hit–let’s see–ten stores (and two restaurants) in six hours, and I came home with one brooch, a belt buckle, a paperweight, four books, and five picture frames. Talk about popping some tags. (That’s a Macklemore song reference, Mom). I can’t tell you how delighted I am with my purchases. And all for the bargain price of $12.50. And whereas I don’t know WHAT I’m going to do with everything I brought home (the belt buckle, for instance) I’m convinced I’ll figure out something sooner or later. For example, I’ve been sitting on an angel frame for over a month now, just waiting for the right brooch to pair it with. Well, the brooch I bought today was “it.”
It’s like every frame has its soulmate (broochmate), and you just have to be patient enough for them to meet each other.
Along these lines, lately I’ve been thinking that although, yes, some things are just ugly, most decorative items simply need the right background or environment. The above brooch, for example, just wouldn’t stand out the same against a yellow background, or in a frame three times as big. To put it succinctly, in terms of the final product, relationship is everything. A word/idea I think about a lot is congruency. Applied to my currents arts and crafts obsession, congruency asks, “Are all the involved parts working together to form a cohesive and eye-pleasing result?” If they aren’t, if the frame, background, brooch aren’t “meant to be together,” I don’t force it.
Setting them aside, I say, “Sorry, you just aren’t soulmates.”
This being said, I’m convinced most of us have the wrong idea about soulmates. Recently my mom and I were watching a tv show on which a man told his girlfriend he thought they were soulmates. The girlfriend, however, said, “I love you, I want to get married to you and have your babies, but I just don’t think we’re soulmates. I think my very first boyfriend was my soulmate.”
“Ouch,” I told my mom. “That was the wrong thing to say.”
Tact aside, who knows if these two are cosmically entwined? Hell, if they’re dating seriously, they probably are. At least in some respect. (No one comes into your life by accident.) Does this mean they’ll have butterflies for each other the rest of their lives? Doubtful. But then again, I believe that they could end up hating each other and still be soulmates.
I’ll explain.
There’s an idea in self-help and spirituality that your soulmate isn’t the person who makes your heart pitter-pat the most but is rather the person who causes your soul to GROW the most. This means the person who crawls under your skin, the one who’s got your goat, and the one you have the hardest time forgiving could very well be your soulmate. Could very well be the soul to whom–on the other side of the veil–you’re most indebted. I think about this a lot, since the older I get the more people there are with whom I’ve experienced conflict. And yet with each person and each drama, I’ve been challenged to find my voice or mature in some other way. And whereas from the outside it may have looked like a splitting off (please don’t call me again, Nancy), from the inside there was actually a coming together. That is, anytime you listen to and follow your inner guidance, you become more congruent. First with yourself AND THEN with another.
Along these lines, this afternoon at one thrift store I walked up on my friend while they were talking to the owner. He’d just handed my friend a piece of jewelry, and my friend said, “Did you make this yourself?”
Pausing ever so slightly, he said, “I did. Back in the 70s.”
Immediately I thought, He’s lying. Later my friend told me the man had said the jewelry was real turquoise, even though it was clearly just “turquoise colored.” And whereas it’s nice to have this confirmation, my point is that my intuition was talking to me, so the congruent thing for me to do was to not trust him to be honest, to not engage with him. Later, in another store, my gut told me a store owner was full of shit, so I literally walked away while he was talking to me. Normally the people pleaser in me wouldn’t have allowed me to do this sort of thing, but I thought, We know what happens when we let people verbally vomit on us because we’ve done that a hundred times before. Let’s see what happens when we take care of ourselves.
Well, I’ll tell you what happened. I walked away and I felt great. Absolutely fabulous. Then I ate this burger and felt even better.
Byron Katie says that a no to you is a yes to me. That is, when you listen to and follow your inner guidance, the answer is always yes. Yes, this brooch and this frame do (or don’t) go together. Yes, I know you’re lying to me. Yes, I’m walking away now. My therapist says when we respond honestly and authentically to people, we not only give ourselves a gift, but also give them a gift. “Even if we’re telling them to take a hike?” I say. “Even if we’re telling them to take a hike,” she says. “Because so many of us are lied to constantly. So it’s good to hear the truth for once, even if the answer’s no. Plus, whenever you’re authentic with someone, you give them permission to be authentic too.” Today my friend said, “How did you walk away from that rambling salesman so easily?”
“I’m not quite sure,” I said. “I just did it.” Looking back, I realize that something in me said, “Move,” so I moved. For once, I listened to me. For once, I was congruent.
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Of all the broken things in your life, you’re not one of them–and you never have been.
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No one dances completely alone.
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Nothing physical was ever meant to stay the same.
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Getting comfortable in your own skin takes time.
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There’s nothing you can do to change the seasons or hurry them along.
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Who’s to say that one experience is better than another?
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It takes forty years in the desert for seas to part.
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"Things that shine do better when they're scattered about."
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"We were made to love without conditions. That's the packaging we were sent with."
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None of us is ever really lost. At least we're never really alone. For always there is someone to help point your ship in the right direction, someone who sees you when you can't see yourself.
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Answers come built-in. There are no "just problems."
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So perhaps perfection has little to do with that which changes and everything to do with that which doesn't. For surely there is a still, small something inside each of us that never changes, something that is timeless and untouchable, something inherently valuable and lovable--something perfect.
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We’re all made of the same stuff.
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Life is never just so. Honestly, it’s a big damn mess most of the time.
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Confidence takes what you have and amplifies it. Confidence makes anyone sexy.
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Every stress and trauma in your life is written somewhere in your body.
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We don’t get to boss life around.
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Suddenly the sun breaks through the clouds. A dove appears--the storm is over.
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"Beating yourself up is a far cry from self-respect."
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Boundaries are about starting small, enjoying initial successes, and practicing until you get your relationships like you want them.
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Your life is a mystery. But you can relax. It’s not your job to solve it.
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"It's really good news to find out that the world isn't as scary as you thought it was."
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You can’t play small forever.
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No good story ever ends.
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The truth doesn’t suck.
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"Obviously, God's capable of a lot. Just look around."
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Life proceeds at its own pace.
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You can’t change what happened, but you can change the story you tell yourself about it.
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Both sunshine and rain are required for growth.
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Even if you can't be anything you want to be, you can absolutely be who you were meant to be. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.
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For I am a universe–large–like you are, and there is room here for all that we contain. An ego, of course, is small, and it is disgusted and humiliated by the smallest of things. But a universe is bigger than that, much too big to judge itself or another, much too big to ever question how bright it is shining.
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Sure, we forget it plenty of times, but on the inside we’re all shining. This is what gives me hope, knowing that we are all radiant.
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Your story isn’t about your physical challenges.
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You’re exactly where you need to be.
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Solid help and solid hope are quite the same thing.
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In this moment, we are all okay.
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No emotion is ever truly buried.
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If you want to become who you were meant to be, it's absolutely necessary to shed your old skin. Sure it might be sad to say goodbye--to your old phone, to your old beliefs, anything that helped get you this far--but you've got to let go in order to make room for something new.
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Our world is magical, a mysterious place where everything somehow works together, where nothing and no one is without influence, where all things great and small make a difference.
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It’s not where you are, it’s whom you are there with.
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"Authenticity is worth all the hard work. Being real is its own reward."
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Sometimes you have to give up wanting something before you can have it.
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You absolutely have to be vulnerable and state what you want.
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Some days, most days, are a mixed bag. We cry, we laugh, we quit, we start again. That's life. In the process, we find out we're stronger than we thought we were, and perhaps this is healing.
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Better that you're true to yourself and the whole world be disappointed than to change who you are and the whole world be satisfied.
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Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not true.
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"Why should anyone be embarrassed about the truth?"
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Perhaps this is what bravery really is--simply having run out of better options, being so totally frustrated by the outside world that all you can do is go within.
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Damn if good news doesn't travel the slowest.
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Your emotions are tired of being ignored.
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Loveis all around us.
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All your scattered pieces want to come back home.
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The more honest you are about what's actually happening inside of you, the happier you are.
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Any mundane thing–an elevator ride!–can be turned into something joyous.
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If you think only girls cry or that crying is inappropriate for some reason, fuck you. Some things are too damn heavy to hold on to forever.
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Just because your face is nice to look at doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart that’s capable of being broken. These things happen to humans, and there isn’t a one of us who isn’t human.
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For all of the things life takes away, it gives so much more in return. Whether we realize it or not, there’s always grace available.
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You can rise above. You can walk on water.
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Whatever needs to happen, happens.
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Everything is progressing as it should.
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"Sickness and health come and go, just like everything else. It's just the way life is."
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Ultimately, we all have to get our validation from inside, not outside, ourselves.
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The clearer you see what's going on inside of you, the clearer you see what's going on outside of you. It's that simple.
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And God knows you don't make everyone else happy. But this is no reason to quit or be discouraged, since doing what you love and feel called to do is never--never--about gaining acceptance from others.
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A mantra: Not an asshole, not a doormat.
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It's the holes or the spaces in our lives that give us room to breathe and room to rest in, room to contain both good and bad days, and--when the time is right--room for something else to come along.
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"Miracles happen."
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Growth and getting far in life have nothing to do with where you’re physically standing.
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Rejecting yourself is what really hurts.
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"No one comes into this life knowing how to dance, always moving with grace."
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All things are moving as they should.
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Our burdens are lighter when we share them.
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You have everything you need.
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"That love inside that shows up as joy or enthusiasm is your authentic self."
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Abundance comes in many forms.
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It’s hard to say where a kindness begins or ends.
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There is a force, a momentum that dances with all of us, sometimes lifting us up in the air, sometimes bringing us back down in a great mystery of starts and stops.
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If you’re making yourself up to get someone else’s approval–stop it–because you can’t manipulate anyone into loving you. People either embrace you for who and what you are–or they don’t.
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"Sure, people change, but love doesn't."
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Each season has something to offer.
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There’s no such thing as a small action. There’s no such thing as small progress.
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You can't build a house, much less a life, from the outside-in. Rather, if you want something that's going to last, you have to start on the inside and work your way out, no matter how long it takes and how difficult it is.
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We are all connected in a great mystery and made of the same strong stuff.
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You really do belong here.
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Storms don’t define us, they refine us.
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I don't think anyone came to this planet in order to get it right the first time. What would be the point?
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Give yourself an abundance of grace.
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We are surrounded by the light.
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For me, it's important to hang on to this idea that no matter how bad they are, your circumstances can turn around, to believe that if an elephant can show up in your life, it can also disappear, to believe that just as the universe full of big problems, it is also full of big answers.
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It's never a small thing to open your home or heart to another person.
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Even a twisted tree grows tall and strong.
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The deepest waters are the only ones capable of carrying you home.
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Go easier on yourself.
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A break is no small thing to give yourself.
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"The truth is right in front of you."
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All emotions are useful.
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As the ocean of life changes, we must too.
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Being scared isn’t always an invitation to run away. More often than not, it’s an invitation to grow a pair and run toward.
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"It's never a minor thing to take better care of yourself."
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Things are only important because we think they are.
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Sometimes the best you can do is metaphorically sit you ego down, look it square in the eye, and say, “Would you shut the fuck up already?”
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All things become ripe when they’re ready.
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You've really got to believe in yourself and what you're doing. Again, it comes down to integrity and making something solid of yourself, something that's so well-built on the inside that it can handle any storm.
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You can be weird here. You can be yourself.
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We follow the mystery, never knowing what’s next.
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There’s a lot of magic around you.
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The symbols that fascinate us are meant to transform us.
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All the while, we imagine things should be different than they are, but life persists the way it is.
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Everything is all right and okay.
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In other words, there's always SOMETHING else to improve or work on. Therefore, striving for perfection is not only frustrating, it's also technically impossible.
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There’s a power that comes when you meet life’s challenges head-on. Those are the times you breathe the deepest. Those are the times the waters come forth and your heart beats every bit as loud as the thunder claps. Those are the times you know more than ever—no matter what happens next—in this moment, you’re alive.
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Abundance is a lot like gravity--it's everywhere.
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We can hang on and put everything safely in its place, and then at some point, we’re forced to let go.
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Whereas I've always pictured patience as a sweet, smiling, long-haired lady in a white dress, I'm coming to see her as a frumpy, worn-out old broad with three chins. You know--sturdy--someone who's been through the ringer and lived to tell about it.
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We think of hope as something pristine, but hope is haggard like we are.
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When we expect great things, we see great things.
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if you're content with yourself and you're always with yourself, then what's the problem?
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As taught in the story of the phoenix, a new life doesn't come without the old one first being burned away.
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Beautiful isn’t something that comes in a particular package. Beautiful is simply being yourself.
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Pressure, it seems, is necessary to positive internal change. After all, lumps of coal don't shine on their own.
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You can be more discriminating.
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Sometimes we move with grace and sometimes we move with struggle. But at some point, standing still is no longer good enough.
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"Kindness is never a small thing."
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We all need to feel alive.
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More often than not, the truth is a monster. It gets in your face and makes you get honest. Sometimes the truth separates you from people you care about, if for no other reason than to bring you closer to yourself.
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Healing is like the internet at my parents’ house—it takes time.
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If you're not living a fully authentic life, a part of you will never be satisfied.
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Just as there’s day and night literally, there’s also day and night emotionally. Like the sun, one minute we’re up, the next minute we’re down. Our perspectives change constantly. There’s nothing wrong with this. The constellations get turned around once a day, so why can’t you and I? Under heaven, there’s room enough for everything–the sun, the moon and stars, and all our emotions. Yes, the universe–our home–is large enough to hold every bit of us.
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If you want to find a problem, you will.
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Take your challenges and turn them into the source of your strengths.
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All great heroes, at some point, surrender to the unknown.
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Normal people don’t walk on water.
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Some things simply take time and often more than one trip to the hardware store.
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Anything and everything is possible.
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"The heart sings for its own reasons."
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Help is always on the way.
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If anything is ever going to change for the better, the truth has to come first.
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Nothing was made to last forever.
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A storm can leave your life just as quickly as it enters it.
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Bodies are so mysterious, much more complicated than car doors. They take more patience to understand and work with. They require more than a couple hours to repair.
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Freedom lies on the other side of everything you're afraid of.
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Transformation doesn’t have a drive thru window. It takes time to be born again.
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"Not knowing what's going to happen next is part of the adventure."
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Stop buying your own bullshit.
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We're allowed to relabel and remake ourselves.
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"You can't change your age, but you can change what your age means to you."
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You can’t stuff down the truth—it always comes up.
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I believe that God is moving small universes to communicate with me and with all of us, answering prayers and sending signs in unplanned moments, the touch of a friend's hand, and the very air we breathe.
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It’s never too late to be your own friend.
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It’s okay to ask for help.
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Healing requires letting go of that thing you can’t let go of.
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"No one's story should end on the ground."
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Since one life touches another, we can never really say how far our influence goes. Truly, our story goes on and on in both directions. Truly, we are infinite.
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Give yourself a break.
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Life doesn’t need us to boss it around.
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Rest gives us time to dream. One day, for certain, you’ll wake up. And you’ll be grateful for the time you rested, and you’ll be just as grateful that you’re different, far from the person who fell asleep.
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It’s enough just to be here.
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Life is better when we're not in control. When we mentally leave room for anything to happen, anything can.
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If another's perspective, another's story about you is kinder than the one you're telling yourself, surely that's a story worth listening to.
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No one is immune from life’s challenges.
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Along the way you’ll find yourself, and that’s the main thing, the only thing there really is to find.
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We always have more support than we realize.
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There’s nothing wrong with taking a damn nap.
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Sometimes you have to go back before you can go forward.
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Nothing is set in stone here.
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You've got to believe that things can turn around, that even difficult situations--perhaps only difficult situations--can turn you into something magnificent.
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One thing finishes, another starts. Things happen when they happen.
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You know when someone crosses a line. You may not want to admit it, but you know.
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"There are a lot of benefits to being right here, right now."
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Healing is never a straight line.
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When you hide your hurt, you can’t help but pass it on. It ends up seeping, sometimes exploding out.
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Our struggles unearth our strengths.
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We can rewrite our stories if we want to.
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We may never be done, but that doesn't mean we'll never be complete. And surely we are complete right here, right now, and surely there is space enough for the full moon, for you and for me, and all our possibilities.
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"I believe we're all courageous, and I believe that no one is alone."
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Sometimes life can really kick you in the balls and make you drop to your knees.
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Our shoulders weren’t meant to carry the weight of the world.
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If life can create a problem, it can also provide an answer.
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When the universe speaks—listen.
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"When you’re authentic, your authenticity is enough. You don’t need to compare."
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One day a change will come.
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It's enough to sit in, and sometimes drag ass through, the mystery.
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The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. And whereas it's just a single step, it's a really important one.
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What are you really running away from?
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Allowing someone else to put you down or discourage your dreams is, quite frankly, anything but self-care.
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Love stands at the front door and says, “You don’t have to change a thing about yourself to come inside.”
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There's a wisdom underneath everything that moves us and even the planets at its own infallible pace. We forget that we too are like the planets, part of a larger universe that is always proceeding one step at time, never in the wrong place, everything always right where it belongs.
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A friend’s laughter takes us backward and carries us forward simultaneously.
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Patting yourself on the back is better than beating yourself over the head.
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Perfection is ever-elusive.
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Aren’t you perfect just the way you are?
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"We all have inner wisdom. We all have true north."
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You can’t pick and choose what you receive from life, and you can’t always accurately label something as bad.
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Boundaries aren’t something you knock out of the park every time.
Yesterday I drove to Sapulpa, Oklahoma, to meet my friend Elisabeth and visit The Eyeball Oracle, an iridologist named Phyllis who owns and works at Rock Creek Herb and Vitamin Company. An iridologist is someone who identifies problems in your body by looking at your eyeballs. (I’m not making this up. It’s on Google.) Since I arrived early, I was the first in line. When Phyllis showed up two hours later, there were at least a dozen other people behind me. As I understand it, this is pretty common with Phyllis, who’s been practicing iridology for over forty years (she learned from her grandfather, who learned from his father) and never charges for her services.
Y’all, it was fascinating–and easy enough, at least for me. After introductions, I sat in a chair and stared out a window while Phyllis looked at my eyes from a few feet away. For maybe a minute or two, Phyllis took notes, stating that we’d first talk about what she observed, then there’d be time for questions. Get this shit. The first thing she said was, “Have you ever had an injury to your left leg or had pain in your right hip?” I said, “Well, the right hip has been a major problem these last several years, and when I was a kid my left leg was twisted, although it never hurts now.” She said, “That’s what created the imbalance, though.”
Phyllis recommended two products for my muscles and ligaments, one of which was a blend of calcium and magnesium and came up later when we discussed my sometimes-nightly leg jerks. In addition to my left leg/right hip issue, Phyllis and I went through eight things or categories she observed in my eyes–thyroid, pancreas, PH of colon, left kidney, stomach/digestion, right adrenal, heart, and (I think) memory/focus. (That was a joke.) For each thing we talked about, Phyllis had recommendations. For my thyroid, which she said contributed to my feeling of being overwhelmed at times, it was two supplements (amino acids) and one vitamin (D3). For my colon, it was black cherry juice (1/3 cup a day). This is something I appreciated, that there was just as much advice about diet (eat things that are red, green, and purple, not things that are white and yellow) as there was about herbs and vitamins.
The diet recommendations, Phyllis said, came from the Blood Type Diet, a theory which proposes that each blood type (A, B, AB, and O) should eat differently. She said, “When I was a child, my grandfather would put all this food on the table and say, ‘What does YOUR body want?'” Phyllis guessed my blood type as A. It’s actually O. There were a couple things like this, observations she had that didn’t “hit home” for me. For example, when she talked about my pancreas and asked if I ever felt my blood sugar drop, I said, “Not really. Sometimes I get light-headed, but it’s better when I stay hydrated and keep my electrolytes, like salt, up.” Phyllis didn’t seem fazed by this, and she wasn’t pushy, which I respected. On my paper under pancreas/blood sugar, she wrote, “Good.”
By the time we got to the end of Phyllis’s list, nothing had been said about my sinuses, which have been my major complaint these last few months and, well, my entire life. When I asked about them, Phyllis–first of all–didn’t say any of the things I’ve been afraid of hearing, things like, “You’re covered in mold,” “You have a yeast infection,” or, “You have an auto-immune disorder.” She didn’t tell me I was beyond hope or repair. Rather, she said that following the Blood Type Diet should help with allergies and mucus production, and the other products already discussed should help with overall immune function. Then she recommended a few products, two of which I’ve never tried before. At the end of the session, she gave me all her notes, on which she’d starred the “priority items.” She said, “Start with your sinuses if you want. Work on your muscles and ligaments later. Come back in six weeks, and we’ll see where you’re at.”
Here’s one of the four pages Phyllis gave me. I chose this one to share because I spent all day yesterday thinking she’d written “Carlos” under “Right Adrenal.” I kept thinking, What’s he doing there? Is that the guy who started The Blood Type Diet? Then last night I realized she’d actually written “Carbs,” as in, eat the good ones–not the bad ones. Carbs, Marcus, not Carlos. But I guess the advice would apply either way.
After I saw Phyllis, a couple other people went, then Elisabeth did. “She told me I had eyes that were sweet and kind,” Elisabeth said. “Well,” I replied, “She certainly didn’t tell me that.”
Not that I’m bitter.
The entire time I was with Phyllis, I never felt pressured to buy any products from her shop. That’s something a lot of the online reviews are clear about. If you want to go and just get your eyes read, you’re more than welcome to. That being said, I did end up buying five things Phyllis recommended–two for my sinuses, two for my thyroid, one for my muscles. I’d told Elisabeth, “Please don’t let me buy the entire store,” and she came through. She said, “You already have that and that, just different brands, and you can wait on that and that and try them later if you want.” By the time it was all over, I spent about as much as I would to see a doctor at a walk-in clinic, a little more than a hundred bucks. At Phyllis’s suggested dosages, I’ll need to restock some of the products in two or three weeks, but that won’t cost any more than all of the other shit I’ve tried these past few months, certainly not more than some antibiotics. None of those things, by the way, have made a remarkable impact on my health.
Phyllis said I should notice a difference within 72 hours, so I started taking the pills before I left the parking lot. One of the ones for my sinuses had eucalyptus in it, and within twenty minutes I could not only smell it, but also taste it when I burped. Now it’s less than twenty-four hours later, and whereas my sinuses aren’t completely dried up, they are better. Likewise, the dark circles under my eyes are lighter, and (I think) there’s less histamine in my face. Maybe I’m just hoping, but I can definitely tell something’s going on–there are sensations, pulses, in my legs and feet that aren’t normally there. I don’t know another way to say it.
I’ll continue to keep you posted, but here’s this, maybe the most notable difference–I woke up feeling great today. I’ve been off-and-on sick, gross, and dragging ass for over ninety days, but–simply put–I’ve been happy today. I’ve had good energy, I haven’t been tired behind my eyes, and I’ve felt like my problems are manageable, my body is capable of health, and the world is full of possibilities. This is no small thing, of course–huge progress. While making breakfast I was singing and dancing along with Macklemore. I feel glorious–glorious–got a chance to start again.
Part of me is dismissing what happened yesterday, thinking I wasted my time and threw my money away–again. I’ve been thinking, It’s just a coincidence, Marcus. You woke up feeling pretty decent yesterday. Maybe you were already healing. Still, here’s what I know. I’ve been working my ass off for over three months trying to get better–reading books, buying vitamins, doing visualizations. Most of this has been on my own, and it’s been exhausting. But this week is about changing that. Yesterday I saw Phyllis, and I see a new medical doctor later this week in order to cover all my bases. And I can’t tell you how grateful I am for all the help and guidance, from wherever it comes–from a lady who looks into my eyes, from a bottle of vitamins, whatever. From above. It’s good to feel better, of course, but it’s even better to know you’re not alone down here.
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Confidence takes what you have and amplifies it. Confidence makes anyone sexy.
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You've really got to believe in yourself and what you're doing. Again, it comes down to integrity and making something solid of yourself, something that's so well-built on the inside that it can handle any storm.
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Our world is magical, a mysterious place where everything somehow works together, where nothing and no one is without influence, where all things great and small make a difference.
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Healing requires letting go of that thing you can’t let go of.
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Better that you're true to yourself and the whole world be disappointed than to change who you are and the whole world be satisfied.
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Sometimes you have to give up wanting something before you can have it.
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"Authenticity is worth all the hard work. Being real is its own reward."
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"No one comes into this life knowing how to dance, always moving with grace."
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Some things simply take time and often more than one trip to the hardware store.
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Healing is like the internet at my parents’ house—it takes time.
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Loveis all around us.
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All great heroes, at some point, surrender to the unknown.
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Nothing is set in stone here.
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Love stands at the front door and says, “You don’t have to change a thing about yourself to come inside.”
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It’s never too late to be your own friend.
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Being scared isn’t always an invitation to run away. More often than not, it’s an invitation to grow a pair and run toward.
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Boundaries are about starting small, enjoying initial successes, and practicing until you get your relationships like you want them.
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You can be more discriminating.
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We are surrounded by the light.
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No emotion is ever truly buried.
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You have everything you need.
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We think of hope as something pristine, but hope is haggard like we are.
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Our shoulders weren’t meant to carry the weight of the world.
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All the while, we imagine things should be different than they are, but life persists the way it is.
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For I am a universe–large–like you are, and there is room here for all that we contain. An ego, of course, is small, and it is disgusted and humiliated by the smallest of things. But a universe is bigger than that, much too big to judge itself or another, much too big to ever question how bright it is shining.
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The symbols that fascinate us are meant to transform us.
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Storms don’t define us, they refine us.
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None of us is ever really lost. At least we're never really alone. For always there is someone to help point your ship in the right direction, someone who sees you when you can't see yourself.
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Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not true.
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Any mundane thing–an elevator ride!–can be turned into something joyous.
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Take your challenges and turn them into the source of your strengths.
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Go easier on yourself.
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Answers come built-in. There are no "just problems."
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A storm can leave your life just as quickly as it enters it.
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It's the holes or the spaces in our lives that give us room to breathe and room to rest in, room to contain both good and bad days, and--when the time is right--room for something else to come along.
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if you're content with yourself and you're always with yourself, then what's the problem?
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Since one life touches another, we can never really say how far our influence goes. Truly, our story goes on and on in both directions. Truly, we are infinite.
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You've got to believe that things can turn around, that even difficult situations--perhaps only difficult situations--can turn you into something magnificent.
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All your scattered pieces want to come back home.
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Rejecting yourself is what really hurts.
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There is a force, a momentum that dances with all of us, sometimes lifting us up in the air, sometimes bringing us back down in a great mystery of starts and stops.
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If you want to become who you were meant to be, it's absolutely necessary to shed your old skin. Sure it might be sad to say goodbye--to your old phone, to your old beliefs, anything that helped get you this far--but you've got to let go in order to make room for something new.
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Normal people don’t walk on water.
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Bodies are so mysterious, much more complicated than car doors. They take more patience to understand and work with. They require more than a couple hours to repair.
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When you hide your hurt, you can’t help but pass it on. It ends up seeping, sometimes exploding out.
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As taught in the story of the phoenix, a new life doesn't come without the old one first being burned away.
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Your life is a mystery. But you can relax. It’s not your job to solve it.
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You absolutely have to be vulnerable and state what you want.
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If you’re making yourself up to get someone else’s approval–stop it–because you can’t manipulate anyone into loving you. People either embrace you for who and what you are–or they don’t.
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Nothing was made to last forever.
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We don’t get to boss life around.
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Who’s to say that one experience is better than another?
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Whatever needs to happen, happens.
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It’s hard to say where a kindness begins or ends.
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What are you really running away from?
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No one dances completely alone.
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Transformation doesn’t have a drive thru window. It takes time to be born again.
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We can hang on and put everything safely in its place, and then at some point, we’re forced to let go.
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"Things that shine do better when they're scattered about."
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"Miracles happen."
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"I believe we're all courageous, and I believe that no one is alone."
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It's enough to sit in, and sometimes drag ass through, the mystery.
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Every stress and trauma in your life is written somewhere in your body.
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Life is never just so. Honestly, it’s a big damn mess most of the time.
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The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. And whereas it's just a single step, it's a really important one.
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So perhaps perfection has little to do with that which changes and everything to do with that which doesn't. For surely there is a still, small something inside each of us that never changes, something that is timeless and untouchable, something inherently valuable and lovable--something perfect.
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It’s okay to ask for help.
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There's a wisdom underneath everything that moves us and even the planets at its own infallible pace. We forget that we too are like the planets, part of a larger universe that is always proceeding one step at time, never in the wrong place, everything always right where it belongs.
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The clearer you see what's going on inside of you, the clearer you see what's going on outside of you. It's that simple.
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In this moment, we are all okay.
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"The heart sings for its own reasons."
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Life is better when we're not in control. When we mentally leave room for anything to happen, anything can.
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If life can create a problem, it can also provide an answer.
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"Kindness is never a small thing."
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A friend’s laughter takes us backward and carries us forward simultaneously.
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Sure, we forget it plenty of times, but on the inside we’re all shining. This is what gives me hope, knowing that we are all radiant.
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All emotions are useful.
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"It's never a minor thing to take better care of yourself."
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Whereas I've always pictured patience as a sweet, smiling, long-haired lady in a white dress, I'm coming to see her as a frumpy, worn-out old broad with three chins. You know--sturdy--someone who's been through the ringer and lived to tell about it.
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Just because your face is nice to look at doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart that’s capable of being broken. These things happen to humans, and there isn’t a one of us who isn’t human.
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It’s not where you are, it’s whom you are there with.
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Your story isn’t about your physical challenges.
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If you think only girls cry or that crying is inappropriate for some reason, fuck you. Some things are too damn heavy to hold on to forever.
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If you want to find a problem, you will.
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There’s a lot of magic around you.
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"When you’re authentic, your authenticity is enough. You don’t need to compare."
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Rest gives us time to dream. One day, for certain, you’ll wake up. And you’ll be grateful for the time you rested, and you’ll be just as grateful that you’re different, far from the person who fell asleep.
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Of all the broken things in your life, you’re not one of them–and you never have been.
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Aren’t you perfect just the way you are?
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Pressure, it seems, is necessary to positive internal change. After all, lumps of coal don't shine on their own.
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A break is no small thing to give yourself.
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One day a change will come.
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The deepest waters are the only ones capable of carrying you home.
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Things are only important because we think they are.
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I believe that God is moving small universes to communicate with me and with all of us, answering prayers and sending signs in unplanned moments, the touch of a friend's hand, and the very air we breathe.
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All things are moving as they should.
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If you're not living a fully authentic life, a part of you will never be satisfied.
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Growth and getting far in life have nothing to do with where you’re physically standing.
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For all of the things life takes away, it gives so much more in return. Whether we realize it or not, there’s always grace available.
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If anything is ever going to change for the better, the truth has to come first.
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A mantra: Not an asshole, not a doormat.
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Abundance comes in many forms.
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Allowing someone else to put you down or discourage your dreams is, quite frankly, anything but self-care.
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Ultimately, we all have to get our validation from inside, not outside, ourselves.
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Patting yourself on the back is better than beating yourself over the head.
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"Sure, people change, but love doesn't."
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Perfection is ever-elusive.
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You really do belong here.
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Everything is all right and okay.
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Our struggles unearth our strengths.
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You can’t pick and choose what you receive from life, and you can’t always accurately label something as bad.
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Freedom lies on the other side of everything you're afraid of.
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Our burdens are lighter when we share them.
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"That love inside that shows up as joy or enthusiasm is your authentic self."
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You can't build a house, much less a life, from the outside-in. Rather, if you want something that's going to last, you have to start on the inside and work your way out, no matter how long it takes and how difficult it is.
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Solid help and solid hope are quite the same thing.
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All things become ripe when they’re ready.
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We always have more support than we realize.
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Perhaps this is what bravery really is--simply having run out of better options, being so totally frustrated by the outside world that all you can do is go within.
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There’s a power that comes when you meet life’s challenges head-on. Those are the times you breathe the deepest. Those are the times the waters come forth and your heart beats every bit as loud as the thunder claps. Those are the times you know more than ever—no matter what happens next—in this moment, you’re alive.
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We may never be done, but that doesn't mean we'll never be complete. And surely we are complete right here, right now, and surely there is space enough for the full moon, for you and for me, and all our possibilities.
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Along the way you’ll find yourself, and that’s the main thing, the only thing there really is to find.
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"We all have inner wisdom. We all have true north."
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It's never a small thing to open your home or heart to another person.
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You can’t stuff down the truth—it always comes up.
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There’s nothing wrong with taking a damn nap.
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Sometimes life can really kick you in the balls and make you drop to your knees.
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We follow the mystery, never knowing what’s next.
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It takes forty years in the desert for seas to part.
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Both sunshine and rain are required for growth.
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Some days, most days, are a mixed bag. We cry, we laugh, we quit, we start again. That's life. In the process, we find out we're stronger than we thought we were, and perhaps this is healing.
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"Obviously, God's capable of a lot. Just look around."
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No one is immune from life’s challenges.
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For me, it's important to hang on to this idea that no matter how bad they are, your circumstances can turn around, to believe that if an elephant can show up in your life, it can also disappear, to believe that just as the universe full of big problems, it is also full of big answers.
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Anything and everything is possible.
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The more honest you are about what's actually happening inside of you, the happier you are.
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You can’t play small forever.
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You can rise above. You can walk on water.
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You can be weird here. You can be yourself.
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When we expect great things, we see great things.
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Sometimes the best you can do is metaphorically sit you ego down, look it square in the eye, and say, “Would you shut the fuck up already?”
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You know when someone crosses a line. You may not want to admit it, but you know.
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No good story ever ends.
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"The truth is right in front of you."
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Nothing physical was ever meant to stay the same.
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We’re all made of the same stuff.
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You can’t change what happened, but you can change the story you tell yourself about it.
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Getting comfortable in your own skin takes time.
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Give yourself an abundance of grace.
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"We were made to love without conditions. That's the packaging we were sent with."
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You’re exactly where you need to be.
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"You can't change your age, but you can change what your age means to you."
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Life doesn’t need us to boss it around.
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Each season has something to offer.
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The truth doesn’t suck.
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And God knows you don't make everyone else happy. But this is no reason to quit or be discouraged, since doing what you love and feel called to do is never--never--about gaining acceptance from others.
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There’s nothing you can do to change the seasons or hurry them along.
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"There are a lot of benefits to being right here, right now."
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I don't think anyone came to this planet in order to get it right the first time. What would be the point?
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Even a twisted tree grows tall and strong.
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Abundance is a lot like gravity--it's everywhere.
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Even if you can't be anything you want to be, you can absolutely be who you were meant to be. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.
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When the universe speaks—listen.
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"No one's story should end on the ground."
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Sometimes you have to go back before you can go forward.
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If another's perspective, another's story about you is kinder than the one you're telling yourself, surely that's a story worth listening to.
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As the ocean of life changes, we must too.
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"Beating yourself up is a far cry from self-respect."
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Everything is progressing as it should.
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Stop buying your own bullshit.
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Boundaries aren’t something you knock out of the park every time.
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We all need to feel alive.
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It’s enough just to be here.
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Just as there’s day and night literally, there’s also day and night emotionally. Like the sun, one minute we’re up, the next minute we’re down. Our perspectives change constantly. There’s nothing wrong with this. The constellations get turned around once a day, so why can’t you and I? Under heaven, there’s room enough for everything–the sun, the moon and stars, and all our emotions. Yes, the universe–our home–is large enough to hold every bit of us.
"
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Give yourself a break.
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Help is always on the way.
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We're allowed to relabel and remake ourselves.
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More often than not, the truth is a monster. It gets in your face and makes you get honest. Sometimes the truth separates you from people you care about, if for no other reason than to bring you closer to yourself.
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"Not knowing what's going to happen next is part of the adventure."
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Healing is never a straight line.
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We are all connected in a great mystery and made of the same strong stuff.
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"It's really good news to find out that the world isn't as scary as you thought it was."
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"Sickness and health come and go, just like everything else. It's just the way life is."
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Damn if good news doesn't travel the slowest.
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Life proceeds at its own pace.
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In other words, there's always SOMETHING else to improve or work on. Therefore, striving for perfection is not only frustrating, it's also technically impossible.
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Beautiful isn’t something that comes in a particular package. Beautiful is simply being yourself.
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Sometimes we move with grace and sometimes we move with struggle. But at some point, standing still is no longer good enough.
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There’s no such thing as a small action. There’s no such thing as small progress.
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We can rewrite our stories if we want to.
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Suddenly the sun breaks through the clouds. A dove appears--the storm is over.
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Your emotions are tired of being ignored.
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"Why should anyone be embarrassed about the truth?"
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One thing finishes, another starts. Things happen when they happen.
Currently I’m waiting for my daily selfie to load. My internet is slow, slow, slow. Last night I had a dream that I’d returned to school, only this time for a visit. After parking, I walked into a classroom. My best friend from high school was there, as was a teacher I didn’t care for. As I walked out of the room, I passed a kid who used to beat me up, stepped over a straight girl who fell in love with me a while back. (Bye, Felicia.) Wanting to go to the office, I ended up outside. There was another teacher I didn’t like far away, and a sort of picnic going on in the courtyard. I woke up when I got to the band. (There was a band.) The dream was uncomfortable because the entire time it felt as if I was walking through mud. Like my present internet speed, I was moving in slow motion. (Slow motion for me.)
I can’t tell you how frustrating it was.
Now it’s three-thirty in the afternoon, and I’m rushing, trying to get through this blog so I can meet my family for my lunch, their dinner. (This happens a lot when you live with senior citizens.) For the last twelve weeks Mom has been getting chemotherapy every Friday, and they always go out to eat afterwards. I’ve only met them a couple times, but today is kind of a big deal, since it’s Mom’s LAST chemotherapy. I mean, she gets to ring a bell! (Apparently it’s a thing.) Anyway, I technically just at breakfast, but I want to celebrate this milestone with my mama. Come on, creativity, come on.
Yesterday I wasn’t in the best mood. If nothing else is going on, this is usually a pretty good indication that I’m not feeling well. True to form, I did have more drainage than normal yesterday, and some of it was green-ish. (It’s gross, I know, but this is the place where I get to be honest.) Anyway, I stepped up the antihistamines, vitamins, and teas, and did another kimchi treatment last night. Y’all, I feel so much better today–less drainage, less color. Again, it’s not a miracle, but it’s close enough. The biggest improvement is that I woke up on the right side of the bed. I was dancing while making breakfast! Yesterday it was the blues, and today it’s Motown.
Things are looking up.
I’m still chewing on the dream I had last night, but my gut says it had it do with patience. In one sense, I know I’ve come a long way, slowly walked through the classroom of life and learned a lot of lessons. The bullies and fruitless relationships are behind me. Still, I’m not wherever it is I’m going (the office). As I said earlier, this is frustrating. In this sense, the dream isn’t a mystery. I constantly look ahead at where I’m not. Every day feels as if I’m not moving fast enough.
There’s a lot of magic around you.
Yesterday on Facebook my sister shared a song by Macklemore and Kesha. The song is called Good Old Days and says, “Some day soon your whole life’s gonna change–you’ll miss the magic of these good old days.” Honestly, I often forget to see the blessings of where I am because I want my life to change–I think it will be better, that I will be happier. I forget that there’s a lot of magic around me (a picnic with a band!), that I get to sleep in, let my body heal and find balance. Not everyone can do that. I forget that I can go out to eat with my parents, be close by while my mom is fighting cancer. Last night we both stayed up late and shared some egg rolls while watching our respective television shows. Who knows how many more times that will happen? So today I’m reminding myself that these truly are magic moments, moments not everyone gets to have, moments that even for me won’t last forever. Slow down, Marcus. Slow down, sweetheart. There’s a lot to enjoy here. And don’t worry, you’ll still get there–wherever that is.
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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A friend’s laughter takes us backward and carries us forward simultaneously.
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Beautiful isn’t something that comes in a particular package. Beautiful is simply being yourself.
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"It's really good news to find out that the world isn't as scary as you thought it was."
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Just because your face is nice to look at doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart that’s capable of being broken. These things happen to humans, and there isn’t a one of us who isn’t human.
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Sure, we forget it plenty of times, but on the inside we’re all shining. This is what gives me hope, knowing that we are all radiant.
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Sometimes the best you can do is metaphorically sit you ego down, look it square in the eye, and say, “Would you shut the fuck up already?”
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"Kindness is never a small thing."
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The deepest waters are the only ones capable of carrying you home.
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Everything is progressing as it should.
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It’s not where you are, it’s whom you are there with.
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"We all have inner wisdom. We all have true north."
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Sometimes you have to go back before you can go forward.
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Life is better when we're not in control. When we mentally leave room for anything to happen, anything can.
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"Sickness and health come and go, just like everything else. It's just the way life is."
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When you hide your hurt, you can’t help but pass it on. It ends up seeping, sometimes exploding out.
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Aren’t you perfect just the way you are?
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If you’re making yourself up to get someone else’s approval–stop it–because you can’t manipulate anyone into loving you. People either embrace you for who and what you are–or they don’t.
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As taught in the story of the phoenix, a new life doesn't come without the old one first being burned away.
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"You can't change your age, but you can change what your age means to you."
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No one dances completely alone.
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Love stands at the front door and says, “You don’t have to change a thing about yourself to come inside.”
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Freedom lies on the other side of everything you're afraid of.
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Whatever needs to happen, happens.
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"Obviously, God's capable of a lot. Just look around."
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"The heart sings for its own reasons."
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It's the holes or the spaces in our lives that give us room to breathe and room to rest in, room to contain both good and bad days, and--when the time is right--room for something else to come along.
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We’re all made of the same stuff.
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There’s no such thing as a small action. There’s no such thing as small progress.
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There's a wisdom underneath everything that moves us and even the planets at its own infallible pace. We forget that we too are like the planets, part of a larger universe that is always proceeding one step at time, never in the wrong place, everything always right where it belongs.
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It's never a small thing to open your home or heart to another person.
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Even a twisted tree grows tall and strong.
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All emotions are useful.
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You absolutely have to be vulnerable and state what you want.
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Your emotions are tired of being ignored.
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Take your challenges and turn them into the source of your strengths.
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Abundance comes in many forms.
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Even if you can't be anything you want to be, you can absolutely be who you were meant to be. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.
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Your story isn’t about your physical challenges.
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It’s okay to ask for help.
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Bodies are so mysterious, much more complicated than car doors. They take more patience to understand and work with. They require more than a couple hours to repair.
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Give yourself an abundance of grace.
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You can be more discriminating.
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"No one comes into this life knowing how to dance, always moving with grace."
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You can’t pick and choose what you receive from life, and you can’t always accurately label something as bad.
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"Why should anyone be embarrassed about the truth?"
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Storms don’t define us, they refine us.
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We may never be done, but that doesn't mean we'll never be complete. And surely we are complete right here, right now, and surely there is space enough for the full moon, for you and for me, and all our possibilities.
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What are you really running away from?
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All the while, we imagine things should be different than they are, but life persists the way it is.
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For all of the things life takes away, it gives so much more in return. Whether we realize it or not, there’s always grace available.
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Answers come built-in. There are no "just problems."
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You can rise above. You can walk on water.
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None of us is ever really lost. At least we're never really alone. For always there is someone to help point your ship in the right direction, someone who sees you when you can't see yourself.
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It’s never too late to be your own friend.
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One thing finishes, another starts. Things happen when they happen.
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If life can create a problem, it can also provide an answer.
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The more honest you are about what's actually happening inside of you, the happier you are.
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"The truth is right in front of you."
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Confidence takes what you have and amplifies it. Confidence makes anyone sexy.
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In other words, there's always SOMETHING else to improve or work on. Therefore, striving for perfection is not only frustrating, it's also technically impossible.
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Rejecting yourself is what really hurts.
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You've got to believe that things can turn around, that even difficult situations--perhaps only difficult situations--can turn you into something magnificent.
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You’re exactly where you need to be.
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Being scared isn’t always an invitation to run away. More often than not, it’s an invitation to grow a pair and run toward.
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In this moment, we are all okay.
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Just as there’s day and night literally, there’s also day and night emotionally. Like the sun, one minute we’re up, the next minute we’re down. Our perspectives change constantly. There’s nothing wrong with this. The constellations get turned around once a day, so why can’t you and I? Under heaven, there’s room enough for everything–the sun, the moon and stars, and all our emotions. Yes, the universe–our home–is large enough to hold every bit of us.
"
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Abundance is a lot like gravity--it's everywhere.
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Your life is a mystery. But you can relax. It’s not your job to solve it.
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You can’t stuff down the truth—it always comes up.
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Suddenly the sun breaks through the clouds. A dove appears--the storm is over.
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Perfection is ever-elusive.
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I don't think anyone came to this planet in order to get it right the first time. What would be the point?
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Growth and getting far in life have nothing to do with where you’re physically standing.
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"That love inside that shows up as joy or enthusiasm is your authentic self."
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Healing is like the internet at my parents’ house—it takes time.
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It’s enough just to be here.
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"No one's story should end on the ground."
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No one is immune from life’s challenges.
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You have everything you need.
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It’s hard to say where a kindness begins or ends.
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Sometimes we move with grace and sometimes we move with struggle. But at some point, standing still is no longer good enough.
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Nothing physical was ever meant to stay the same.
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You really do belong here.
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A storm can leave your life just as quickly as it enters it.
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There’s a lot of magic around you.
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Nothing was made to last forever.
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The symbols that fascinate us are meant to transform us.
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Whereas I've always pictured patience as a sweet, smiling, long-haired lady in a white dress, I'm coming to see her as a frumpy, worn-out old broad with three chins. You know--sturdy--someone who's been through the ringer and lived to tell about it.
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You can’t play small forever.
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Transformation doesn’t have a drive thru window. It takes time to be born again.
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You've really got to believe in yourself and what you're doing. Again, it comes down to integrity and making something solid of yourself, something that's so well-built on the inside that it can handle any storm.
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One day a change will come.
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We don’t get to boss life around.
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All great heroes, at some point, surrender to the unknown.
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Better that you're true to yourself and the whole world be disappointed than to change who you are and the whole world be satisfied.
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"Miracles happen."
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Every stress and trauma in your life is written somewhere in your body.
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"When you’re authentic, your authenticity is enough. You don’t need to compare."
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And God knows you don't make everyone else happy. But this is no reason to quit or be discouraged, since doing what you love and feel called to do is never--never--about gaining acceptance from others.
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Our shoulders weren’t meant to carry the weight of the world.
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"We were made to love without conditions. That's the packaging we were sent with."
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No emotion is ever truly buried.
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Go easier on yourself.
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"Sure, people change, but love doesn't."
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Perhaps this is what bravery really is--simply having run out of better options, being so totally frustrated by the outside world that all you can do is go within.
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"I believe we're all courageous, and I believe that no one is alone."
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If another's perspective, another's story about you is kinder than the one you're telling yourself, surely that's a story worth listening to.
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If you're not living a fully authentic life, a part of you will never be satisfied.
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As the ocean of life changes, we must too.
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Anything and everything is possible.
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Patting yourself on the back is better than beating yourself over the head.
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The truth doesn’t suck.
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When we expect great things, we see great things.
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We always have more support than we realize.
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If you want to become who you were meant to be, it's absolutely necessary to shed your old skin. Sure it might be sad to say goodbye--to your old phone, to your old beliefs, anything that helped get you this far--but you've got to let go in order to make room for something new.
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Any mundane thing–an elevator ride!–can be turned into something joyous.
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Since one life touches another, we can never really say how far our influence goes. Truly, our story goes on and on in both directions. Truly, we are infinite.
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If you want to find a problem, you will.
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I believe that God is moving small universes to communicate with me and with all of us, answering prayers and sending signs in unplanned moments, the touch of a friend's hand, and the very air we breathe.
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Who’s to say that one experience is better than another?
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Boundaries aren’t something you knock out of the park every time.
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It takes forty years in the desert for seas to part.
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All things become ripe when they’re ready.
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"Authenticity is worth all the hard work. Being real is its own reward."
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For I am a universe–large–like you are, and there is room here for all that we contain. An ego, of course, is small, and it is disgusted and humiliated by the smallest of things. But a universe is bigger than that, much too big to judge itself or another, much too big to ever question how bright it is shining.
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Our struggles unearth our strengths.
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Our burdens are lighter when we share them.
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Life proceeds at its own pace.
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Give yourself a break.
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A mantra: Not an asshole, not a doormat.
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Healing requires letting go of that thing you can’t let go of.
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"It's never a minor thing to take better care of yourself."
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Rest gives us time to dream. One day, for certain, you’ll wake up. And you’ll be grateful for the time you rested, and you’ll be just as grateful that you’re different, far from the person who fell asleep.
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Everything is all right and okay.
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Boundaries are about starting small, enjoying initial successes, and practicing until you get your relationships like you want them.
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Both sunshine and rain are required for growth.
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Damn if good news doesn't travel the slowest.
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We think of hope as something pristine, but hope is haggard like we are.
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if you're content with yourself and you're always with yourself, then what's the problem?
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All things are moving as they should.
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There’s a power that comes when you meet life’s challenges head-on. Those are the times you breathe the deepest. Those are the times the waters come forth and your heart beats every bit as loud as the thunder claps. Those are the times you know more than ever—no matter what happens next—in this moment, you’re alive.
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"Not knowing what's going to happen next is part of the adventure."
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There’s nothing wrong with taking a damn nap.
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Stop buying your own bullshit.
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You can't build a house, much less a life, from the outside-in. Rather, if you want something that's going to last, you have to start on the inside and work your way out, no matter how long it takes and how difficult it is.
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No good story ever ends.
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Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not true.
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When the universe speaks—listen.
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Life is never just so. Honestly, it’s a big damn mess most of the time.
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There is a force, a momentum that dances with all of us, sometimes lifting us up in the air, sometimes bringing us back down in a great mystery of starts and stops.
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You know when someone crosses a line. You may not want to admit it, but you know.
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We can rewrite our stories if we want to.
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Getting comfortable in your own skin takes time.
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Each season has something to offer.
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You can be weird here. You can be yourself.
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We are all connected in a great mystery and made of the same strong stuff.
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Life doesn’t need us to boss it around.
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Solid help and solid hope are quite the same thing.
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We follow the mystery, never knowing what’s next.
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"There are a lot of benefits to being right here, right now."
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Along the way you’ll find yourself, and that’s the main thing, the only thing there really is to find.
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Allowing someone else to put you down or discourage your dreams is, quite frankly, anything but self-care.
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Help is always on the way.
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Some things simply take time and often more than one trip to the hardware store.
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The clearer you see what's going on inside of you, the clearer you see what's going on outside of you. It's that simple.
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We're allowed to relabel and remake ourselves.
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Sometimes you have to give up wanting something before you can have it.
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There’s nothing you can do to change the seasons or hurry them along.
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Of all the broken things in your life, you’re not one of them–and you never have been.
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If you think only girls cry or that crying is inappropriate for some reason, fuck you. Some things are too damn heavy to hold on to forever.
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You can’t change what happened, but you can change the story you tell yourself about it.
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Things are only important because we think they are.
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Loveis all around us.
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Normal people don’t walk on water.
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More often than not, the truth is a monster. It gets in your face and makes you get honest. Sometimes the truth separates you from people you care about, if for no other reason than to bring you closer to yourself.
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For me, it's important to hang on to this idea that no matter how bad they are, your circumstances can turn around, to believe that if an elephant can show up in your life, it can also disappear, to believe that just as the universe full of big problems, it is also full of big answers.
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We can hang on and put everything safely in its place, and then at some point, we’re forced to let go.
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All your scattered pieces want to come back home.
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It's enough to sit in, and sometimes drag ass through, the mystery.
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Nothing is set in stone here.
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Pressure, it seems, is necessary to positive internal change. After all, lumps of coal don't shine on their own.
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We all need to feel alive.
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A break is no small thing to give yourself.
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Some days, most days, are a mixed bag. We cry, we laugh, we quit, we start again. That's life. In the process, we find out we're stronger than we thought we were, and perhaps this is healing.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"Beating yourself up is a far cry from self-respect."
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Sometimes life can really kick you in the balls and make you drop to your knees.
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The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. And whereas it's just a single step, it's a really important one.
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So perhaps perfection has little to do with that which changes and everything to do with that which doesn't. For surely there is a still, small something inside each of us that never changes, something that is timeless and untouchable, something inherently valuable and lovable--something perfect.
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Healing is never a straight line.
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If anything is ever going to change for the better, the truth has to come first.
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"Things that shine do better when they're scattered about."
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Ultimately, we all have to get our validation from inside, not outside, ourselves.
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Our world is magical, a mysterious place where everything somehow works together, where nothing and no one is without influence, where all things great and small make a difference.