My friend Marla says that she could be a bank robber because no one ever remembers her. Most of the time, she’s quiet. She doesn’t get in anyone’s way. Like, you could probably step on her shoe on purpose, and she’d apologize for not having a smaller foot. By her own admission, she tries to blend in, to not stand out. I guess we all develop strategies for getting by in the world, and at least for now, this one is working for Marla.
Which is too bad.
This morning I woke up at 6:45 to hear Marla speak to a group of local business leaders. She currently writes and edits for a magazine in town that I used to write for, which is how we met. So six years ago she was just my editor. Now she’s also my friend, which is the only reason I got out of bed so friggin’ early.
Getting dressed, I threw on a white t-shirt that I bought as part of a three-pack deal from TJ Maxx. I love a white t-shirt first out of the package, but as they start to shrink, I usually grow to hate them. For this reason, I’ve recently taken to not putting my t-shirts in the dryer. Well, now that I’m living with my parents, of course, my mom has started doing my laundry. Turns out, she uses fabric softener on t-shirts. Well, I guess the scent is extra strong because the shirt wasn’t put in the dryer, so every three minutes, I get huge whiff of the stuff, and it smells like a brand new teddy bear on a glorious spring morning.
It makes me want to vomit.
The event this morning was held at a local bookstore and coffee shop, and the hosts provided a free waffle bar that was so fantastic it’d make even the Holiday Inn Express jealous. So I’m in the waffle line this morning, just holding onto my coffee cup and smelling my t-shirt, hoping that no one will talk to me or stand too close. And just at that moment, the guy next to me calls me by name and strikes up a conversation. All I could think was, “Shit” because I hate it when people know my name and I don’t know theirs, especially when there’s a timer ticking away on a waffle iron two feet away. It’s like the universe hitting you over the head and saying, “You’re stuck here for another two minutes and sixteen seconds.”
And then to make matters worse, I realize whom I’m talking to. It’s a guy who’s hit on me a number of times online. On Grindr. (Grindr is essentially a hookup app, but sometimes after five days of feeling lonely and three hours of drinking margaritas, I’ll think that it’s a good way to stumble across marriage material. I could probably compare this mentality to my dad’s believing that God wants him to win the lottery.) Anyway, this guy in the waffle line has straight up asked me for sex before, something that always offends me, at least when it happens before I find out someone’s name. (Once another guy asked me for sex, and when I asked what he did for a living, he told me that information was too personal. But sex is okay. Go figure.)
I realize that my getting on a hookup app and being offended by a quick offer for sex is a bit like showing up to an orgy and sipping tea and crumpets in a three-piece suite with your pinky raised in the air (like, I’m so much better than this), but we all have our standards.
So back to the waffle line. The timer’s up, it’s my turn to make a waffle, and the guy moves on. And despite everything that was going on in my head, it was a pleasant conversation. It didn’t make me want to go on a date or have sex with him, but it did make me think that some people come off better in person than they do online.
When my waffle finished, I topped it off with hazelnut cream cheese, bananas, and maple syrup, and sat down at a table in the middle of the room to hear Marla speak. (I guess I overdid it on the sugar and coffee because I’m actually shaking as I sit here in the library.) True to form, Marla started slowly, quietly. She read from a prepared speech, and she mostly looked down. She talked about losing a former job, about all the shit things that happened in her life before she ended up working as a full-time writer at the magazine. And I can only assume that I wasn’t alone as I sat there wondering where the talk was going and how she was going to connect with everyone in the room.
But then it happened.
In a still, small voice, Marla, whose exact beautiful words I can’t recall, said something like, “We all have times in our lives when we feel like we’re up against a wall, when we feel like things will never get better.” Right then, I wanted to cry, and I guess it’s because I’m single and I’m living with my parents, and my mom’s doing my laundry, and I smell like a field full of daisies. And to make matters worse, now I’m crying into my Belgium waffle at eight in the morning. (I’ll take “Things that are not a turn-on” for a thousand, Alex.)
My therapist says that life always balances itself. Like if you swing a pendulum really far in one direction, you know it’s going to swing back in the other. She says that I’ve been burning the candle at both ends for so long that this period in my life is the universe’s way of saying, “Whoa, Trigger, slow down.” This period of time is about resting, about getting balance. And as for living with my parents, she says that she lived with her parents for a while when she was getting her Master’s Degree and that it really laid the foundation for the good relationship she has with them today.
So maybe being at home again isn’t a bad thing. Maybe it’s about building better relationships and about finding balance, even if it’s in the little things like Mom doing my laundry because she was so sick with depression when I was growing up that she wasn’t able to back then. At that time, I had to grow up pretty fast. I had to take care of myself, do my own laundry. So now it’s like there’s this chance to turn back the clock. It lets her be a mom, and it lets me be a kid. It lets me experience being taken care of.
When I think about balance, I think about how I’ve spent most my life being really hard on myself and everyone else. Like, totally judgmental. Pinky in the air–I’m better than this. It’s like, maybe a little judgment is useful now and then, but I’ve been way overdoing it, like putting too much hazelnut cream cheese on my self-judgment waffle. And I think that Marla’s words hit me this morning because that kind of thinking and judgment can really make you feel like you’re up against a wall. Things don’t go the way you want–say, you might move in with your parents–and suddenly you feel like you’re all alone, that things will never get better.
I like to think that the universe is always trying to get my attention, that it’s actually interested in what’s going on with me, that it’s wanting to spark a conversation, dropping hints here and there. And if that’s the case, I think the fabric softener on my white t-shirt is a big hint. I think it’s telling me, “Hey, you’ve been really hard on yourself for a long time now. It’s time to soften up…a lot. It’s time to swing the other way.”
Earlier I mentioned that I thought Marla’s quiet persona was too bad. What I meant by that is that I think she’s an amazing writer and an even better friend. I think more people might notice her if she spoke in a louder voice. But what I’m finding is that sometimes it’s the still, small voices that have the most to say. They slip in late. They sit on the back row. But if you listen, they disarm you. They remind you that you’re overdoing it. They tell you that you need to soften up. They say, “You may be up against a wall, but I’m right here with you.”
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One day a change will come.
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Answers come built-in. There are no "just problems."
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No one is immune from life’s challenges.
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Getting comfortable in your own skin takes time.
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If you want to find a problem, you will.
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You can be weird here. You can be yourself.
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A break is no small thing to give yourself.
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When the universe speaks—listen.
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Storms don’t define us, they refine us.
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If another's perspective, another's story about you is kinder than the one you're telling yourself, surely that's a story worth listening to.
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All things become ripe when they’re ready.
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"The truth is right in front of you."
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Our burdens are lighter when we share them.
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Sure, we forget it plenty of times, but on the inside we’re all shining. This is what gives me hope, knowing that we are all radiant.
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Pressure, it seems, is necessary to positive internal change. After all, lumps of coal don't shine on their own.
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Your emotions are tired of being ignored.
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No one dances completely alone.
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It’s okay to ask for help.
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As taught in the story of the phoenix, a new life doesn't come without the old one first being burned away.
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Boundaries are about starting small, enjoying initial successes, and practicing until you get your relationships like you want them.
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Every stress and trauma in your life is written somewhere in your body.
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Your story isn’t about your physical challenges.
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There’s nothing you can do to change the seasons or hurry them along.
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And God knows you don't make everyone else happy. But this is no reason to quit or be discouraged, since doing what you love and feel called to do is never--never--about gaining acceptance from others.
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You really do belong here.
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We’re all made of the same stuff.
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Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not true.
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I believe that God is moving small universes to communicate with me and with all of us, answering prayers and sending signs in unplanned moments, the touch of a friend's hand, and the very air we breathe.
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If you’re making yourself up to get someone else’s approval–stop it–because you can’t manipulate anyone into loving you. People either embrace you for who and what you are–or they don’t.
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A friend’s laughter takes us backward and carries us forward simultaneously.
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"Obviously, God's capable of a lot. Just look around."
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Go easier on yourself.
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In other words, there's always SOMETHING else to improve or work on. Therefore, striving for perfection is not only frustrating, it's also technically impossible.
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All things are moving as they should.
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When we expect great things, we see great things.
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Our shoulders weren’t meant to carry the weight of the world.
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Each season has something to offer.
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Abundance is a lot like gravity--it's everywhere.
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The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. And whereas it's just a single step, it's a really important one.
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Freedom lies on the other side of everything you're afraid of.
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Ultimately, we all have to get our validation from inside, not outside, ourselves.
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One thing finishes, another starts. Things happen when they happen.
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No good story ever ends.
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Being scared isn’t always an invitation to run away. More often than not, it’s an invitation to grow a pair and run toward.
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Along the way you’ll find yourself, and that’s the main thing, the only thing there really is to find.
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"No one comes into this life knowing how to dance, always moving with grace."
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You absolutely have to be vulnerable and state what you want.
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Life proceeds at its own pace.
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Our struggles unearth our strengths.
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You can’t change what happened, but you can change the story you tell yourself about it.
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Whereas I've always pictured patience as a sweet, smiling, long-haired lady in a white dress, I'm coming to see her as a frumpy, worn-out old broad with three chins. You know--sturdy--someone who's been through the ringer and lived to tell about it.
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Give yourself a break.
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You can be more discriminating.
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Healing is never a straight line.
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"Authenticity is worth all the hard work. Being real is its own reward."
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It's enough to sit in, and sometimes drag ass through, the mystery.
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Take your challenges and turn them into the source of your strengths.
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It’s not where you are, it’s whom you are there with.
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Aren’t you perfect just the way you are?
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It's the holes or the spaces in our lives that give us room to breathe and room to rest in, room to contain both good and bad days, and--when the time is right--room for something else to come along.
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"We were made to love without conditions. That's the packaging we were sent with."
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I don't think anyone came to this planet in order to get it right the first time. What would be the point?
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All the while, we imagine things should be different than they are, but life persists the way it is.
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We're allowed to relabel and remake ourselves.
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Perhaps this is what bravery really is--simply having run out of better options, being so totally frustrated by the outside world that all you can do is go within.
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It’s enough just to be here.
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It’s never too late to be your own friend.
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Whatever needs to happen, happens.
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A mantra: Not an asshole, not a doormat.
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"I believe we're all courageous, and I believe that no one is alone."
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You've got to believe that things can turn around, that even difficult situations--perhaps only difficult situations--can turn you into something magnificent.
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Who’s to say that one experience is better than another?
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Rest gives us time to dream. One day, for certain, you’ll wake up. And you’ll be grateful for the time you rested, and you’ll be just as grateful that you’re different, far from the person who fell asleep.
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The deepest waters are the only ones capable of carrying you home.
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Boundaries aren’t something you knock out of the park every time.
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Normal people don’t walk on water.
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A storm can leave your life just as quickly as it enters it.
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So perhaps perfection has little to do with that which changes and everything to do with that which doesn't. For surely there is a still, small something inside each of us that never changes, something that is timeless and untouchable, something inherently valuable and lovable--something perfect.
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Life doesn’t need us to boss it around.
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The truth doesn’t suck.
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You can rise above. You can walk on water.
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All your scattered pieces want to come back home.
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Even a twisted tree grows tall and strong.
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"We all have inner wisdom. We all have true north."
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Patting yourself on the back is better than beating yourself over the head.
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"Beating yourself up is a far cry from self-respect."
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Your life is a mystery. But you can relax. It’s not your job to solve it.
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We always have more support than we realize.
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There’s a power that comes when you meet life’s challenges head-on. Those are the times you breathe the deepest. Those are the times the waters come forth and your heart beats every bit as loud as the thunder claps. Those are the times you know more than ever—no matter what happens next—in this moment, you’re alive.
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For all of the things life takes away, it gives so much more in return. Whether we realize it or not, there’s always grace available.
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It takes forty years in the desert for seas to part.
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We are surrounded by the light.
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Transformation doesn’t have a drive thru window. It takes time to be born again.
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No emotion is ever truly buried.
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Stop buying your own bullshit.
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Help is always on the way.
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For me, it's important to hang on to this idea that no matter how bad they are, your circumstances can turn around, to believe that if an elephant can show up in your life, it can also disappear, to believe that just as the universe full of big problems, it is also full of big answers.
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Sometimes life can really kick you in the balls and make you drop to your knees.
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Perfection is ever-elusive.
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The clearer you see what's going on inside of you, the clearer you see what's going on outside of you. It's that simple.
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We can hang on and put everything safely in its place, and then at some point, we’re forced to let go.
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If you want to become who you were meant to be, it's absolutely necessary to shed your old skin. Sure it might be sad to say goodbye--to your old phone, to your old beliefs, anything that helped get you this far--but you've got to let go in order to make room for something new.
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"Miracles happen."
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Any mundane thing–an elevator ride!–can be turned into something joyous.
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"Things that shine do better when they're scattered about."
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if you're content with yourself and you're always with yourself, then what's the problem?
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You can’t play small forever.
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Things are only important because we think they are.
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Nothing was made to last forever.
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Give yourself an abundance of grace.
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Damn if good news doesn't travel the slowest.
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More often than not, the truth is a monster. It gets in your face and makes you get honest. Sometimes the truth separates you from people you care about, if for no other reason than to bring you closer to yourself.
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Some things simply take time and often more than one trip to the hardware store.
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Everything is progressing as it should.
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Healing requires letting go of that thing you can’t let go of.
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The symbols that fascinate us are meant to transform us.
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Sometimes we move with grace and sometimes we move with struggle. But at some point, standing still is no longer good enough.
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We all need to feel alive.
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"Not knowing what's going to happen next is part of the adventure."
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We think of hope as something pristine, but hope is haggard like we are.
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There is a force, a momentum that dances with all of us, sometimes lifting us up in the air, sometimes bringing us back down in a great mystery of starts and stops.
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Our world is magical, a mysterious place where everything somehow works together, where nothing and no one is without influence, where all things great and small make a difference.
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Healing is like the internet at my parents’ house—it takes time.
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Since one life touches another, we can never really say how far our influence goes. Truly, our story goes on and on in both directions. Truly, we are infinite.
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Even if you can't be anything you want to be, you can absolutely be who you were meant to be. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.
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All emotions are useful.
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Abundance comes in many forms.
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Confidence takes what you have and amplifies it. Confidence makes anyone sexy.
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You have everything you need.
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In this moment, we are all okay.
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There's a wisdom underneath everything that moves us and even the planets at its own infallible pace. We forget that we too are like the planets, part of a larger universe that is always proceeding one step at time, never in the wrong place, everything always right where it belongs.
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You can’t stuff down the truth—it always comes up.
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What are you really running away from?
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Sometimes you have to give up wanting something before you can have it.
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Growth and getting far in life have nothing to do with where you’re physically standing.
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"You can't change your age, but you can change what your age means to you."
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Sometimes the best you can do is metaphorically sit you ego down, look it square in the eye, and say, “Would you shut the fuck up already?”
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Suddenly the sun breaks through the clouds. A dove appears--the storm is over.
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There’s nothing wrong with taking a damn nap.
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You can’t pick and choose what you receive from life, and you can’t always accurately label something as bad.
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Bodies are so mysterious, much more complicated than car doors. They take more patience to understand and work with. They require more than a couple hours to repair.
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There’s no such thing as a small action. There’s no such thing as small progress.
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You've really got to believe in yourself and what you're doing. Again, it comes down to integrity and making something solid of yourself, something that's so well-built on the inside that it can handle any storm.
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Just because your face is nice to look at doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart that’s capable of being broken. These things happen to humans, and there isn’t a one of us who isn’t human.
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If anything is ever going to change for the better, the truth has to come first.
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We don’t get to boss life around.
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If you think only girls cry or that crying is inappropriate for some reason, fuck you. Some things are too damn heavy to hold on to forever.
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"There are a lot of benefits to being right here, right now."
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You’re exactly where you need to be.
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Better that you're true to yourself and the whole world be disappointed than to change who you are and the whole world be satisfied.
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"Sure, people change, but love doesn't."
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"The heart sings for its own reasons."
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Rejecting yourself is what really hurts.
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When you hide your hurt, you can’t help but pass it on. It ends up seeping, sometimes exploding out.
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Nothing physical was ever meant to stay the same.
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Nothing is set in stone here.
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You can't build a house, much less a life, from the outside-in. Rather, if you want something that's going to last, you have to start on the inside and work your way out, no matter how long it takes and how difficult it is.
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Anything and everything is possible.
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"Why should anyone be embarrassed about the truth?"
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Both sunshine and rain are required for growth.
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We are all connected in a great mystery and made of the same strong stuff.
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As the ocean of life changes, we must too.
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There’s a lot of magic around you.
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"No one's story should end on the ground."
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We may never be done, but that doesn't mean we'll never be complete. And surely we are complete right here, right now, and surely there is space enough for the full moon, for you and for me, and all our possibilities.
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Love stands at the front door and says, “You don’t have to change a thing about yourself to come inside.”
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For I am a universe–large–like you are, and there is room here for all that we contain. An ego, of course, is small, and it is disgusted and humiliated by the smallest of things. But a universe is bigger than that, much too big to judge itself or another, much too big to ever question how bright it is shining.
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You know when someone crosses a line. You may not want to admit it, but you know.
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Love is all around us.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Of all the broken things in your life, you’re not one of them–and you never have been.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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If you're not living a fully authentic life, a part of you will never be satisfied.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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The more honest you are about what's actually happening inside of you, the happier you are.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Life is never just so. Honestly, it’s a big damn mess most of the time.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"Kindness is never a small thing."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Some days, most days, are a mixed bag. We cry, we laugh, we quit, we start again. That's life. In the process, we find out we're stronger than we thought we were, and perhaps this is healing.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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We can rewrite our stories if we want to.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"It's really good news to find out that the world isn't as scary as you thought it was."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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It’s hard to say where a kindness begins or ends.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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If life can create a problem, it can also provide an answer.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Just as there’s day and night literally, there’s also day and night emotionally. Like the sun, one minute we’re up, the next minute we’re down. Our perspectives change constantly. There’s nothing wrong with this. The constellations get turned around once a day, so why can’t you and I? Under heaven, there’s room enough for everything–the sun, the moon and stars, and all our emotions. Yes, the universe–our home–is large enough to hold every bit of us.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Allowing someone else to put you down or discourage your dreams is, quite frankly, anything but self-care.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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None of us is ever really lost. At least we're never really alone. For always there is someone to help point your ship in the right direction, someone who sees you when you can't see yourself.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Beautiful isn’t something that comes in a particular package. Beautiful is simply being yourself.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"Sickness and health come and go, just like everything else. It's just the way life is."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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We follow the mystery, never knowing what’s next.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"When you’re authentic, your authenticity is enough. You don’t need to compare."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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It's never a small thing to open your home or heart to another person.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Life is better when we're not in control. When we mentally leave room for anything to happen, anything can.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"It's never a minor thing to take better care of yourself."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Everything is all right and okay.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Solid help and solid hope are quite the same thing.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"That love inside that shows up as joy or enthusiasm is your authentic self."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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All great heroes, at some point, surrender to the unknown.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Sometimes you have to go back before you can go forward.
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