There’s an English slang word that I learned about earlier this year. The word is coddiwomple. It means “to travel purposefully toward an as-yet-unknown destination,” and that’s exactly what’s about to happen. In other words, I don’t know where I’m going with this blog, but, like any good man, I intend to make good time getting there.
For breakfast this morning, I walked to Hardee’s, and although I didn’t realize it, I had my heart set on a steak and egg biscuit, which was a staple item for me several months ago when I was in the midst of fixing up the old house I was living in and getting ready to move. Well, when I got to Hardee’s, I was informed that the steak and egg biscuit was no longer available. It actually took three people to confirm this fact, and the last one, a lady, said, “That was a seasonal item, and the season is over.”
Well, I almost walked out the door, like, Screw you people. I’m taking my business elsewhere. But I was in a hurry to get to the dentist to have two cavities filled, so I decided to stay and eat a fried chicken biscuit instead. (And yes, the irony of eating fast food thirty minutes before going to the dentist to have cavities filled is not lost on me. All I can say is, make hay while the sun shines.) Anyway, it wasn’t the worst breakfast I’ve ever had, but it certainly wasn’t worth getting a cavity over and tasted a lot more like disappointment than chicken.
Always one to overanalyze, I started thinking way too much about why I was so let down about the steak and egg biscuit season being over. I mean, it’s just a steak and egg biscuit. From Hardee’s.
The first place my mind went was this time about a year and a half ago when I’d asked a friend to do me a favor and host another dance instructor who’d come into town to teach for a convention I used to organize. Well, my friend ended up having some of his friends over that night, and my dance instructor was upset, partly, because he thought they were too loud. My first reaction was to get angry, since I thought my friend’s actions reflected poorly on me, so I brought it up in therapy thinking that I’d be agreed with. But I wasn’t. My therapist said that I’d asked someone to do something for me, and then I got angry because they didn’t do it the way I would’ve. She said that I should have been more clear about my desires, said something like, “I’d like you to host someone, please, but I don’t want you blast Michael Buble music until three in the morning. How do you feel about that?”
I said I could have said that, but this sort of thing had never come up before. And then my therapist said, “You’ve been really fortunate. You’ve been spoiled.” (Spin this however you want, but it didn’t feel like a compliment.)
So after the thing at Hardee’s this morning, I started wondering if that was it, if I was just spoiled. And then I started thinking of all the words that are associated with being spoiled, words like rotten and brat, and then I felt like shit because I was convinced I was an entitled little twit who almost always gets his way and throws a temper tantrum every time Hardee’s changes it’s menu. (Sometimes my therapist says that I’m married to suffering, and looking at what I’ve just written, she may be right about that.)
Then I started thinking what a perfectly disgusting word spoiled is, how we should probably ban it from the English language–at least when used to refer to humans and not eggs–because it’s never used to build anyone up. It’s always used to put someone in their place, like, “Who do you think you are, wanting a steak and egg biscuit from Hardee’s?”
So up until the time the dentist put a drill in my mouth, this idea of being spoiled was all I could think about, and I kept trying to figure out the difference between feeling like you’re worthy of good things (like a decent, fast food breakfast) and feeling like you’re spoiled, ready to be thrown out with the sour milk. I’m still not sure I have an answer, but I think it has to do with the difference in feeling like you’re entitled to something as opposed to just wanting it. And I think how severely you react to the disappointments in your life will let you know which side of the fence you fall on.
By the time my cavities were filled and I could no longer open the right side of my mouth, I decided I wasn’t spoiled. Yes, I’m fortunate, but there are so many things a lot bigger than breakfast that don’t go my way. And I didn’t throw a tantrum this morning, I just felt disappointed. More accurately, I felt sad.
A little over three years ago, I was about to break up with my ex. I’d been convinced we were going to get married, but we were fighting all the time, and it was usually about something stupid, like the fact that I wouldn’t go to McDonald’s a block away and get him a McFlurry. (And no, he was not in a wheelchair or somehow unable to walk or drive himself.) Well, I was fucking miserable. Some days I’d just lie in bed and stare at the wall. Then one night we went out to eat at Ed Walker’s, and all I really wanted was a piece of chocolate cake. I had my heart set on it. Like, my life may suck right now, but at least there’s chocolate cake.
So I ask the waitress if they have chocolate cake today, and she says yes. But then she brings German Chocolate Cake, and I start fighting back tears because IT’S NOT THE SAME THING, BITCH.
No, I didn’t say that, but it was probably written all over my face.
Later my ex said that the waitress probably thought I was crazy, which, of course, I was. But I wasn’t crazy because I started crying over German Chocolate Cake–I was crazy because I was dating him. And I was disappointed he wasn’t the one, and I was sad because I loved him, and there was no way in hell that it could work. So I shoved those feelings down at home, and they all came rushing back up as soon as they had a decent chance and I was too focused on chocolate cake to stop them.
So here’s where we ended up, here’s where we coddiwompled. First, the disappointment over breakfast this morning really wasn’t that big of a deal. But it did cause me to stop and realize that there are actually some pretty big disappointments in my life right now, a lot of things bigger than cheap biscuits that haven’t turned out like I thought they would, things that I had my heart set on. And although I don’t want to start feeling sorry for myself, I think it’s okay to feel sad about those things. I think it’s okay to grieve the death of my fantasies. It’s okay to be sad when seasons end. And maybe that means for a while, I need to spoil myself–sleep in a little later, eat my favorite breakfast even if it’s bad for me, go out for chocolate cake. After a while, I’m hoping, sadness will let me go because I listened to it and didn’t shove it down, and then I can strike out with purpose toward an as-yet-unknown destination with nothing to hold me back.
[As a side note, there’s part of me that feels my ex is largely responsible for this blog. In the first place, he’s the reason I went to therapy. In the second, he gave me this laptop. My therapist says that he doesn’t deserve any credit because it was how I responded to the shitty situation that made the difference. But as Andrew Solomon says, “If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.”]
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Healing is never a straight line.
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And God knows you don't make everyone else happy. But this is no reason to quit or be discouraged, since doing what you love and feel called to do is never--never--about gaining acceptance from others.
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Growth and getting far in life have nothing to do with where you’re physically standing.
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It's the holes or the spaces in our lives that give us room to breathe and room to rest in, room to contain both good and bad days, and--when the time is right--room for something else to come along.
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"No one's story should end on the ground."
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You've got to believe that things can turn around, that even difficult situations--perhaps only difficult situations--can turn you into something magnificent.
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"Why should anyone be embarrassed about the truth?"
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We can rewrite our stories if we want to.
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All great heroes, at some point, surrender to the unknown.
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Being scared isn’t always an invitation to run away. More often than not, it’s an invitation to grow a pair and run toward.
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Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not true.
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Answers come built-in. There are no "just problems."
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We’re all made of the same stuff.
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What are you really running away from?
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Give yourself an abundance of grace.
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Healing requires letting go of that thing you can’t let go of.
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A break is no small thing to give yourself.
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The deepest waters are the only ones capable of carrying you home.
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Take your challenges and turn them into the source of your strengths.
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Sometimes life can really kick you in the balls and make you drop to your knees.
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One day a change will come.
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You really do belong here.
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In other words, there's always SOMETHING else to improve or work on. Therefore, striving for perfection is not only frustrating, it's also technically impossible.
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"That love inside that shows up as joy or enthusiasm is your authentic self."
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Our world is magical, a mysterious place where everything somehow works together, where nothing and no one is without influence, where all things great and small make a difference.
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Things are only important because we think they are.
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We follow the mystery, never knowing what’s next.
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You can be weird here. You can be yourself.
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For all of the things life takes away, it gives so much more in return. Whether we realize it or not, there’s always grace available.
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You can’t pick and choose what you receive from life, and you can’t always accurately label something as bad.
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Any mundane thing–an elevator ride!–can be turned into something joyous.
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Healing is like the internet at my parents’ house—it takes time.
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Your life is a mystery. But you can relax. It’s not your job to solve it.
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You can’t change what happened, but you can change the story you tell yourself about it.
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It's never a small thing to open your home or heart to another person.
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You absolutely have to be vulnerable and state what you want.
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Sometimes you have to go back before you can go forward.
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One thing finishes, another starts. Things happen when they happen.
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We're allowed to relabel and remake ourselves.
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Since one life touches another, we can never really say how far our influence goes. Truly, our story goes on and on in both directions. Truly, we are infinite.
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Aren’t you perfect just the way you are?
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Sure, we forget it plenty of times, but on the inside we’re all shining. This is what gives me hope, knowing that we are all radiant.
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Life proceeds at its own pace.
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"It's never a minor thing to take better care of yourself."
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No one is immune from life’s challenges.
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Confidence takes what you have and amplifies it. Confidence makes anyone sexy.
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"Obviously, God's capable of a lot. Just look around."
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When the universe speaks—listen.
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If you want to become who you were meant to be, it's absolutely necessary to shed your old skin. Sure it might be sad to say goodbye--to your old phone, to your old beliefs, anything that helped get you this far--but you've got to let go in order to make room for something new.
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More often than not, the truth is a monster. It gets in your face and makes you get honest. Sometimes the truth separates you from people you care about, if for no other reason than to bring you closer to yourself.
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Everything is all right and okay.
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Allowing someone else to put you down or discourage your dreams is, quite frankly, anything but self-care.
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Life is better when we're not in control. When we mentally leave room for anything to happen, anything can.
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"I believe we're all courageous, and I believe that no one is alone."
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It’s never too late to be your own friend.
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Even if you can't be anything you want to be, you can absolutely be who you were meant to be. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.
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"The truth is right in front of you."
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Our shoulders weren’t meant to carry the weight of the world.
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Sometimes we move with grace and sometimes we move with struggle. But at some point, standing still is no longer good enough.
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There’s no such thing as a small action. There’s no such thing as small progress.
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We all need to feel alive.
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We don’t get to boss life around.
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Pressure, it seems, is necessary to positive internal change. After all, lumps of coal don't shine on their own.
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Boundaries aren’t something you knock out of the park every time.
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Nothing is set in stone here.
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As the ocean of life changes, we must too.
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When you hide your hurt, you can’t help but pass it on. It ends up seeping, sometimes exploding out.
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You can’t play small forever.
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It’s hard to say where a kindness begins or ends.
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We think of hope as something pristine, but hope is haggard like we are.
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If another's perspective, another's story about you is kinder than the one you're telling yourself, surely that's a story worth listening to.
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All emotions are useful.
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Abundance is a lot like gravity--it's everywhere.
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A mantra: Not an asshole, not a doormat.
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"You can't change your age, but you can change what your age means to you."
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A friend’s laughter takes us backward and carries us forward simultaneously.
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Every stress and trauma in your life is written somewhere in your body.
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Just as there’s day and night literally, there’s also day and night emotionally. Like the sun, one minute we’re up, the next minute we’re down. Our perspectives change constantly. There’s nothing wrong with this. The constellations get turned around once a day, so why can’t you and I? Under heaven, there’s room enough for everything–the sun, the moon and stars, and all our emotions. Yes, the universe–our home–is large enough to hold every bit of us.
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Ultimately, we all have to get our validation from inside, not outside, ourselves.
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if you're content with yourself and you're always with yourself, then what's the problem?
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For I am a universe–large–like you are, and there is room here for all that we contain. An ego, of course, is small, and it is disgusted and humiliated by the smallest of things. But a universe is bigger than that, much too big to judge itself or another, much too big to ever question how bright it is shining.
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Even a twisted tree grows tall and strong.
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We can hang on and put everything safely in its place, and then at some point, we’re forced to let go.
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"We were made to love without conditions. That's the packaging we were sent with."
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We always have more support than we realize.
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Some days, most days, are a mixed bag. We cry, we laugh, we quit, we start again. That's life. In the process, we find out we're stronger than we thought we were, and perhaps this is healing.
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It’s enough just to be here.
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Sometimes you have to give up wanting something before you can have it.
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There’s nothing you can do to change the seasons or hurry them along.
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If you want to find a problem, you will.
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You've really got to believe in yourself and what you're doing. Again, it comes down to integrity and making something solid of yourself, something that's so well-built on the inside that it can handle any storm.
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No emotion is ever truly buried.
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"We all have inner wisdom. We all have true north."
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Everything is progressing as it should.
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Some things simply take time and often more than one trip to the hardware store.
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All your scattered pieces want to come back home.
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If you're not living a fully authentic life, a part of you will never be satisfied.
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You can't build a house, much less a life, from the outside-in. Rather, if you want something that's going to last, you have to start on the inside and work your way out, no matter how long it takes and how difficult it is.
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"Things that shine do better when they're scattered about."
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In this moment, we are all okay.
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"Authenticity is worth all the hard work. Being real is its own reward."
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As taught in the story of the phoenix, a new life doesn't come without the old one first being burned away.
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You’re exactly where you need to be.
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No good story ever ends.
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Your emotions are tired of being ignored.
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"Miracles happen."
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Stop buying your own bullshit.
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Give yourself a break.
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Life doesn’t need us to boss it around.
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"When you’re authentic, your authenticity is enough. You don’t need to compare."
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Boundaries are about starting small, enjoying initial successes, and practicing until you get your relationships like you want them.
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Transformation doesn’t have a drive thru window. It takes time to be born again.
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When we expect great things, we see great things.
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There is a force, a momentum that dances with all of us, sometimes lifting us up in the air, sometimes bringing us back down in a great mystery of starts and stops.
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You can be more discriminating.
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All things are moving as they should.
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Whatever needs to happen, happens.
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The truth doesn’t suck.
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Our struggles unearth our strengths.
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Along the way you’ll find yourself, and that’s the main thing, the only thing there really is to find.
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The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. And whereas it's just a single step, it's a really important one.
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Rejecting yourself is what really hurts.
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You know when someone crosses a line. You may not want to admit it, but you know.
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Of all the broken things in your life, you’re not one of them–and you never have been.
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Abundance comes in many forms.
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"Beating yourself up is a far cry from self-respect."
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Storms don’t define us, they refine us.
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All things become ripe when they’re ready.
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"Sickness and health come and go, just like everything else. It's just the way life is."
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The clearer you see what's going on inside of you, the clearer you see what's going on outside of you. It's that simple.
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Our burdens are lighter when we share them.
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Love stands at the front door and says, “You don’t have to change a thing about yourself to come inside.”
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There's a wisdom underneath everything that moves us and even the planets at its own infallible pace. We forget that we too are like the planets, part of a larger universe that is always proceeding one step at time, never in the wrong place, everything always right where it belongs.
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Perhaps this is what bravery really is--simply having run out of better options, being so totally frustrated by the outside world that all you can do is go within.
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No one dances completely alone.
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Bodies are so mysterious, much more complicated than car doors. They take more patience to understand and work with. They require more than a couple hours to repair.
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Damn if good news doesn't travel the slowest.
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Whereas I've always pictured patience as a sweet, smiling, long-haired lady in a white dress, I'm coming to see her as a frumpy, worn-out old broad with three chins. You know--sturdy--someone who's been through the ringer and lived to tell about it.
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So perhaps perfection has little to do with that which changes and everything to do with that which doesn't. For surely there is a still, small something inside each of us that never changes, something that is timeless and untouchable, something inherently valuable and lovable--something perfect.
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I don't think anyone came to this planet in order to get it right the first time. What would be the point?
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A storm can leave your life just as quickly as it enters it.
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It’s not where you are, it’s whom you are there with.
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Better that you're true to yourself and the whole world be disappointed than to change who you are and the whole world be satisfied.
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We are surrounded by the light.
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Freedom lies on the other side of everything you're afraid of.
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I believe that God is moving small universes to communicate with me and with all of us, answering prayers and sending signs in unplanned moments, the touch of a friend's hand, and the very air we breathe.
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Solid help and solid hope are quite the same thing.
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It’s okay to ask for help.
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"It's really good news to find out that the world isn't as scary as you thought it was."
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Both sunshine and rain are required for growth.
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There’s a lot of magic around you.
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Nothing was made to last forever.
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"Not knowing what's going to happen next is part of the adventure."
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"No one comes into this life knowing how to dance, always moving with grace."
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Nothing physical was ever meant to stay the same.
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There’s nothing wrong with taking a damn nap.
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All the while, we imagine things should be different than they are, but life persists the way it is.
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Sometimes the best you can do is metaphorically sit you ego down, look it square in the eye, and say, “Would you shut the fuck up already?”
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You can rise above. You can walk on water.
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Life is never just so. Honestly, it’s a big damn mess most of the time.
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Anything and everything is possible.
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It takes forty years in the desert for seas to part.
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It's enough to sit in, and sometimes drag ass through, the mystery.
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If life can create a problem, it can also provide an answer.
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If you think only girls cry or that crying is inappropriate for some reason, fuck you. Some things are too damn heavy to hold on to forever.
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"There are a lot of benefits to being right here, right now."
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We are all connected in a great mystery and made of the same strong stuff.
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If anything is ever going to change for the better, the truth has to come first.
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We may never be done, but that doesn't mean we'll never be complete. And surely we are complete right here, right now, and surely there is space enough for the full moon, for you and for me, and all our possibilities.
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Each season has something to offer.
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"The heart sings for its own reasons."
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Normal people don’t walk on water.
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Help is always on the way.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"Sure, people change, but love doesn't."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
"Kindness is never a small thing."
Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Go easier on yourself.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Love is all around us.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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You have everything you need.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Just because your face is nice to look at doesn’t mean you don’t have a heart that’s capable of being broken. These things happen to humans, and there isn’t a one of us who isn’t human.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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If you’re making yourself up to get someone else’s approval–stop it–because you can’t manipulate anyone into loving you. People either embrace you for who and what you are–or they don’t.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Who’s to say that one experience is better than another?
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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For me, it's important to hang on to this idea that no matter how bad they are, your circumstances can turn around, to believe that if an elephant can show up in your life, it can also disappear, to believe that just as the universe full of big problems, it is also full of big answers.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Rest gives us time to dream. One day, for certain, you’ll wake up. And you’ll be grateful for the time you rested, and you’ll be just as grateful that you’re different, far from the person who fell asleep.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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The more honest you are about what's actually happening inside of you, the happier you are.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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None of us is ever really lost. At least we're never really alone. For always there is someone to help point your ship in the right direction, someone who sees you when you can't see yourself.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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You can’t stuff down the truth—it always comes up.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Getting comfortable in your own skin takes time.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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There’s a power that comes when you meet life’s challenges head-on. Those are the times you breathe the deepest. Those are the times the waters come forth and your heart beats every bit as loud as the thunder claps. Those are the times you know more than ever—no matter what happens next—in this moment, you’re alive.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Suddenly the sun breaks through the clouds. A dove appears--the storm is over.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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The symbols that fascinate us are meant to transform us.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Beautiful isn’t something that comes in a particular package. Beautiful is simply being yourself.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Patting yourself on the back is better than beating yourself over the head.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Your story isn’t about your physical challenges.
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Quotes from CoCo (Marcus)
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Perfection is ever-elusive.
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